Get Rich Without Being A Bitch

Everyone Has Money Blocks, Even Financial Coaches!

“Money affects all parts of our life if we don’t have a handle on it,” says Kelsa Dickey, CEO & Founder of Fiscal Fitness. Kelsa has made it her life mission to help people get control over their finances, so they can lead more fulfilling and healthier lives. Kelsa learned from her parents that your level of life satisfaction is less connected to how much money you make than it is how you choose to spend it. While her mother was frugal and perpetually stressed about funds, her father spent liberally on things that were deemed “popular” and “trendy.” At the end of the day, neither of her parents was truly fulfilled.

Kelsa admits that she, too, has undergone her fair share of money blocks while building her company to its current level of success. For example, the belief that making too much money in her business would make her kids entitled initially prevented her from reaching her full potential. However, Kelsa has since come to understand the strength of her personal values, which have informed how she chooses to spend her money, how she runs her business, and how she interacts with her family. In fact, a few years ago, she and her husband created the “Dickey Family Creed,” which reminds them and their two daughters to embody their fundamental values no matter what the situation.

Tune into this week’s episode of Get Rich Without Being a Bitch to learn more about Kelsa’s perspective on what it means to live richly and how she incorporates this outlook into her own life. Plus, you won’t want to miss out on hearing Kelsa’s “Dickey Family Creed,” which may inform how you and your family choose to keep sight of your morals through thick and thin! Join Kelsa and host Vanessa Shaw to learn more about creating the life you truly want to live.

Quotes

• “Money affects all parts of our life if we don’t have a handle on it. And so, I wanted to help people get control of their money, so that they could actually focus and give their attention to things that really matter in life.” (3:46-3:59)
• “Money by itself is not the most important thing. You can have millions of dollars and be miserable….If you, however, have money and are being intentional with it and you are using it in a way that brings you more fulfillment in life and putting it behind what’s most important to you...then it can actually boost your satisfaction overall. It can actually be a tool that helps you accomplish your dreams and live your life exactly as you want to as opposed to not having tons of options.” (5:17-5:53)
• ”I don’t think that the way business works is that it’s ‘learn and then do.’ I think that it’s ‘do and then learn.’” (12:15-12:21)
• “Your stress or your satisfaction in your life with money is not actually connected to how much you’re making. It’s connected to how you are spending it.”  (18:39-18:48)
• “I am a financial coach, I do this work for a living, and I have money blocks, too….Mine was that if I make too much money in my business, then my children will grow up spoiled, entitled, not nice kids.” (29:39-30:02)
• “As one control enthusiast to another...done is better than perfect because I think if we’re so focused on it being perfect, you will not get your dream out there. (44:07-44:21)

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From Food Stamps to Needing New Tax Strategies

“The rise in women philanthropy is now,” says Jarrett Ransom, CEO and Founder of the Rayvan Group. As a self-proclaimed Non-profit Nerd, Jarrett is a powerhouse strategist for major non-profit organizations. But her story wasn’t always so rosy. Jarrett’s giving spirit comes, in part, from the fact that once was a single mom in need of financial support. 

In 2009, Jarrett worked for a major non-profit with a $21 million operating budget. But the financial crisis hit hard - she had to lay off her entire team, and then she got laid off six months later. Soon after she found out she was pregnant. Jarrett launched her own business to support her new family, but she was struggling. She had to go on food stamps and government support. Then one day, in the grocery store, her mindset shifted. She decided she wouldn’t be a victim of her fate. She would survive this. 

Since then, Jarrett has worked hard with many coaches, including Vannessa, to change her money story, and help her business thrive. Now, as her business continues to grow, she loves nothing more than seeing women in philanthropy put their money, time, and talents into organizations they love. 

 

Quotes:

• “Our childhood plays a really big role in our stories.”
• “I found myself, about ten years ago now, really at rock bottom with finances, with confidence, with clarity, with self-esteem, you name it. I was just not at the top of my game. I did find myself on food stamps and every other government support that exists.” (6:27-6:48) 

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Turn Imposter Syndrome into Your Superpower

“Your story is a story,” says Jen Coken, coach and imposter syndrome expert. Jen has spent her career helping people identify the moments when their stories about themselves limit their performance at work and in life. And the primary source of those faulty stories? Imposter syndrome. 

Imposter syndrome is a struggle that more than 70% of people struggle with. It’s the idea that we don’t deserve the success that we have -- that somehow, we aren’t actually the right person for the job. The root of imposter syndrome is often shame and embarrassment, and it usually can be traced back to moments early in our lives. But when we continue to act based on the flawed idea that we are imposters, we are letting our inner hurt child run the show. 

From perfectionism to being unable to advocate for ourselves, this episode of Get Rich Without Being a Bitch exposes the many ways imposter syndrome can rear its ugly head -- and what we can do about it. 

 

Quotes:

• They estimate that 70% of all people suffer from it. I, having been a coach for so long and coached people, from high school students to members of congress, and everyone I come across has some form of imposter syndrome. And I say that if you don’t have some form of it, you’re not stretching yourself enough. You’re not not risking yourself enough. (2:37-2:59)
• “My whole career was spent helping people go after their dreams, to the point where I didn’t know what my own were.” (27:19-27:27) 

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From maxed out credit cards to giving herself a 48% raise

“I didn’t realize everyone else knew I was drowning as much as I was,” says Sarah Rosten, Founder and CEO of Pediatric Interactions. In this frank conversation with host Vannessa Shaw, Sarah talks about how she went from a failing business to a million-dollar practice in the span of just a year -- and in the middle of the pandemic. 

In February 2020, Sarah and Vannessa had a difficult phone call. Sarah’s business plan was fundamentally flawed. She had maxed out her credit cards, her business and personal lines of credit, and had even taken $80k out of her own retirement fund -- all while not paying herself a living wage. But that phone call sparked a dramatic change in Sarah’s outlook. She knew she needed to make changes to her business, but that wasn’t it. She also needed to change her mindset - starting with how she viewed herself and her role in the company. 

From a woman who struggled to call herself the CEO to a multi-million dollar business owner who is thriving during COVID while providing top-notch speech therapy services to children and their families, Sarah is proof that mindset can make all the difference. Tune in this week to hear Sarah’s story, and the lessons she learned along the way from a supportive community of female entrepreneurs.

 

Quote:

• "I had huge guilt. I was taking money out of my family’s pocket. I was next going to my kids’ college fund to make payroll. I was, in essence, stealing from my family.” (13:14-13:30)
• “I really had to start looking at the stories I was telling myself” (20:28-20:31)

 

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Changing the Conversation About Women, Money & Collaboration

“Everything has to do with wealth, not just your money,” says Meghann Conter, CEO and Founder of The Dames and business woman extraordinaire. On this episode of Get Rich Without Being a Bitch, host Vanessa Shaw talks with Meghann about her community of female entrepreneurs with six- and seven-figure businesses, and what inspired her to start looking at networking as an opportunity to collaborate, learn, and grow both personally and professionally. 

Meghann started the Dames after more than seven years of fruitless networking. She realized she was wasting time - and she wanted to facilitate a safe community for women to learn from each other and grow as people and entrepreneurs. Now, the Dames has more than 400 members internationally, and is on target to double that number in 2021. But for Meghann, it wasn’t always an easy journey. Her work in the Dames requires her to continually do personal work -- and that’s part of what she loves about it. 

Tune in for a rich conversation about the struggles women face as they search for authentic professional communities, how Meghann overcame her money story and started talking to her husband about what it feels like to be the breadwinner, and the secret to achieving growth not just in your bank account, but across the many facets of your life. 

Quotes:

• "She said to me... Meghann you do know your value is not in what you do but who you be" (28.15-28:20)
• “Everything has to do with wealth, not just your money.” (29:44-29:49)

 

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My Inner 5 Year Old was Running the Show!

“All of a sudden, I realized my inner five year old was running the show,” says Vanessa Shaw in this episode of How to Get Rich Without Being a Bitch. She explains how she used her experience as an executive coach with a focus on cultivating emotional intelligence to conquer her own triggers: namely, shame and anxiety around money. 

As human beings, Vanessa explains, we are hard-wired to avoid pain and seek out instant gratification. Addressing our fear is uncomfortable, so we avoid it. But the long-term consequences of doing that are enormous. For Vanessa, the consequences of avoiding her hard feelings around money included inconsistent pricing, discounting her services unnecessarily, and not having hard conversations with clients or vendors when they didn’t deliver as promised. 

Tune in to this episode to learn more about how going deep into your past and identifying the root of your anxieties can help you build a better future -- for yourself and your business. 

 

Quotes:

• “We often get trapped in this cycle of short-term gain over long-term pain.” (3:05-3:15)
• “All of a sudden, I realized my inner five year old was running the show when it came to all things money, and it was time for me to finally grow up as a business owner.” (14:26-14:40)

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The Healing Power of an Expensive Pair of Shoes

“How do creative people make decisions?” This is the question that Sam Bennett, speaker and best-selling author seeks to uncover in her work as a career and life coach for creatives. 

Sam defines herself as an accidental entrepreneur - she fell into her work when she realized how many sensitive, creative people like her needed guidance to find the right path. She helps highly creative people tune into what they want to do, and get that work into the world. Though our predominant cultural message is “You can’t make money doing what you love,” Sam has made a living proving otherwise. 

For Sam, creative doesn’t mean artistic. Being creative is a natural interest, adeptness, or ability to solve problems in a certain area -- you can be creative as a plumber, a designer, or a database architect. 

Sam talks with host Vanessa Shaw about valuing your work, both emotionally and financially, and how her own struggle with depression and anxiety shaped her business and her corporate policies. She insists on the healing power of self care - whether that means sweating it out at the gym or buying an expensive pair of shoes that make you feel powerful. 

At the end of the day, she reminds us, “You are the engine pulling that train.”

Quotes: 

• “I started to succeed fairly early, mostly because I didn't know it was supposed to be hard.” (3:35)
• “Undercharging is a lie. You are misrepresenting the value of what you do.”
• “My personal beliefs become my corporate policies.”
• “Dealing with depression has made me a better entrepreneur because I don't wait to feel good to do things.”

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Know Your Worth: Women & Money

“Here’s what I’m worth, here’s what I demand.” These are words that many women struggle to say - and that’s the subject of today’s real and raw conversation about women and money with Pamela Brooks, Organizational Development Consultant at Arizona State University. As a human performance specialist, Pamela studies how to help people and organizations reach their full potential. In this chat, she focuses on the research behind women, money, and performance. 

Pamela’s childhood experiences with money had nothing to do with growth potential. She was raised by hard-working parents without college degrees who taught her to pay cash, avoid debt, and ignore the divide between the “haves” and the “have-nots.” In her career, Pamela struggled to step up and ask for what she was worth -- and it wasn’t until she realized what a difference it made for other women that she began demanding higher pay. 

In a study about pay negotiation at Stanford, Penn State, and Harvard, women often had more advanced degrees and experience, but didn't ask for more money, while men consistently asked for higher pay. Why is this? Pamela dives into the emotions and logic that play into pay gaps, including fear of judgement from other women around asking for higher salaries.

Pamela reminds us that it’s about more than just our own paychecks: “If you don’t demand what you’re worth, it’s going to make it harder for every female that comes after you.” Tune in to hear the real deal about women, money, and knowing your worth. 

Quotes: 

• “Here’s what I’m worth, here’s what I demand.” (6:15-6:18)
• “If you don’t demand what you’re worth, it’s going to make it harder for every female that comes after you” (7:20-7:25)
• “With that lack of confidence and that fear, we pull ourselves away from the support we need to become larger.”
• “It doesn't matter what path we’ve taken in our careers, when we get to a certain point, we’re worth the same amount.”

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My Own Money Story

Though on the outside she looked like a jet-setter, for a few months, Vanessa’s life was in shambles. She shares her story of realizing that her love-hate relationship with money was going to cause her to lose her business if she didn’t big changes -- and fast.

 

By exploring her history with money, including the shame of struggling with math in primary school and watching her mother slave over her budget trying to feed their family of six, Vanessa was able to change her feelings about money, which ultimately helped shape her success story.

 

Learn how exploring your own emotional attachment to money can open up a world of success and possibility.  

 

Quotes:

• “How could I have had so much success and now be staring at this massive money mess” 
• “Well people like us just don’t have that type of money.”

 

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Why I Started The Business Growth Academy

“I grew up believing getting ahead meant marrying well.” Vanessa Shaw’s origin story might sound familiar. As a young girl, she had many unanswered questions about money, and little understanding of what options existed for her beyond being a mother and housewife. In the math classroom, she had an old-fashioned teacher that shamed her for asking questions -- which led to a lifelong aversion to math and financial statements, even after she started her own business. 

 

With few female role models and an aversion to conversations about money, Vanessa soon found herself in a crisis when a major account ended and her accountant called her into the office to warn her of impending bankruptcy.

 

“Nothing will change until you change.” Vanessa brings us to the lowest point in her career -- the moment when she lost a big contract, and more than 85% of her income. The shame she felt in this moment made her realize that something needed to change - and it had to start with her. 

 

Vanessa hired a coach, educated herself, and changed her mindset. Along the way, she discovered that she wasn’t alone. In fact, many women shared the same challenges. With so many struggling female entrepreneurs, Vanessa saw an opportunity to make a difference, and  The Business Growth Academy was born.

 

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